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Post by ydekm on Dec 12, 2008 11:46:44 GMT 12
Might be a good idea Cherry : )
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Post by Roderick on Dec 12, 2008 11:56:33 GMT 12
I prefer to do similar Cherry...where possible...let them talk each other out (discuss the problem/issue)and then we can all carry on and get over it...within reason , i now try to let discussions run their course...especially off the main board...in the hope that something will be resolved , rather than carry on festering....cheers
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Post by Queen Cherry on Dec 12, 2008 12:36:38 GMT 12
Yeah good plan. I'm a total sook about conflict and just want to run round making everyone feel better. Which is NOT a physical possibility I've discovered.
Such a shame. But I can't think things through the way YDEKM can, she's got very logical thought processes. And I can't defend myself the way Tikva can - I'm much more inclined to agree with anyone's comments about me and curl up and die quietly!
Go to it dudes, love ya loads, and be well.
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Post by ydekm on Dec 12, 2008 14:10:14 GMT 12
I dont meant to start conflict - I just find it ironic that it's ok to insult people in Zambuca because you are SURE it is happening on other forums... I've met alot of SC people and I consider some of them good friends. Kimarhi is one... I imagine she would be disgusted that I have ever lowered myself to step in here to defend her... but I grow tired of seeing people throw her name around when really the issue is between Yochana and her exhusband. Not Kimarhi.
I find it amusing that people believe I am a part of any other SC off-shoot forums... when I'm not.
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Post by Roderick on Dec 12, 2008 19:59:45 GMT 12
I'm happy to take you as you are hun...a stroppy lady who will attack and defend anyone , and anything if it takes your fancy , and creates a big scene.......HELP... only joking... TDO...Control your womanfolk please ::0...Hopefully this time round we can all relax some and agree to exist on the same planet peacefully...and talk out any issues...without major blowouts...We have quite a different membership to sc these days , who we do not want to let NZ look bad in front of them...
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Post by ydekm on Dec 12, 2008 21:23:30 GMT 12
Where have I attacked anyone?
If you have a problem with women who speak their opinion then that is your beef, not mine.
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Post by Roadhog on Dec 12, 2008 22:19:52 GMT 12
He's just pullin' ya leg, lass!!! All my hatchets are buried. Over the next couple months, I'm going to be far too busy in RL to be worried about dramas here. My online time will be restricted. As for Kimi, I have always had respect for SC's resident god(ess) and hope that that could be mutual at least once in a while. I wont hold my breath, but you just never know....... Isnt hope a great thing? ? If you could bottle it up, you would make a killing!!!!
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Post by tikva on Dec 12, 2008 23:39:30 GMT 12
Did I start this thread? No. Please post any posts in Zambuka that you can find in which I am 'bitching' about them. I have checked all my posts myself, and by my definition, NOT ONE is bitching about them. Back your claims up ~ for once. And regarding the You and Yours comment, it is well known on both SC and here that you and those whom I refer to as the FCE's, communicate with one another beyond these places, in a place similar to Zambuka, but private. No, I'm not paranoid at all ~ I just happen to KNOW about this, for a fact. Also, I did NOT complain ~ you and I sorted the issues out via one of those instant messengers at the time. So, all you have done, is perpetuate more lies and misinformation. And I thought YOU were better than that. Mamma, I apologise for this, but as long as the lies and misinformation continue, I have no choice but to respond, even if others think otherwise. I am not a member of any other forum. You can ask whoever you consider "mine" (I think you'd be suprised who I'm NOT friendly with). I haven't perpetuated anything. What's the point of lying? By stating that this thread is 'bitching about them' you are lying. And you still haven't bothered to back up your claims by posting any posts of mine here at Zambuka. Why not?? My apologies if I am incorrect about you being a member of any other forum, and I say that sincerely. The very last thing I want to do is spread misinformation and/or lies about anyone else.
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Post by tikva on Dec 13, 2008 0:00:41 GMT 12
I dont meant to start conflict - I just find it ironic that it's ok to insult people in Zambuca because you are SURE it is happening on other forums... I've met alot of SC people and I consider some of them good friends. Kimarhi is one... I imagine she would be disgusted that I have ever lowered myself to step in here to defend her... but I grow tired of seeing people throw her name around when really the issue is between Yochana and her exhusband. Not Kimarhi. I find it amusing that people believe I am a part of any other SC off-shoot forums... when I'm not. Anything I have said here is no different to things that I have said directly to others at SC. Unfortunately, that cannot be proven as the threads were deleted by Moderators, and one by the thread starter herself. And for the record, where have I EVER thrown Kimarhi's name about here? Please, stop making statements that are misleading and untrue. And the issue isn't to do with my Ex, not directly anyway. It is to do with lies that began with him, ended up with Kimarhi, and then her posting them on SC. I'm sure if you had been in an abusive relationship for 16 years, and then was publicly accused of being the abuser, you wouldn't be too impressed. Well, neither was I, YDEKM. I spent a long time not defending myself, and I refuse to do that anymore. I don't want to argue with you and I don't want conflict with you. You might actually be suprised to find out that apart from the issues we have had, I quite like Kimarhi, and think that it is sad that things have gotten to the place that they have. On a number of occasions I attempted to let her know the 'warning signs' to look for in regards to her Cousin, signs which would indicate that he was doing to her what he did to me. I did that out of respect for Kimarhi, and not for her Cousin. Yes, I will admit to being angry at a number of SC people for the way in which I have been treated. You may not know, but I have suffered from mild agoraphobia for a number of years, and because of this, do not allow myself to be in social situations where I might actually meet 'real life' friends. And, when I was married, my Ex would pull a mood if I spent time with any friends, so in the end I gave up doing so. As a result, Smile City was a place where I *used* to feel comfortable turning to at times when things were overwhelming me and when there was no one else to turn to at that time. Some things I could hold on to til I saw my Pschologist again, but other things were just too much. And because of the way that I have been treated by others at SC when I post anything that is of a personal nature, I spent some of the worst times of my life feeling isolated and alone. It is that that makes me feel anger towards them, for their behaviour took away something that I needed at the time. In all honesty, I just wish people could just understand me, rather than put me down, for I am already down far enough. I am not a bad person, I am not a dishonest person. I'm just a person trying to climb her way out of a ghastly place that I am in because of the wrong choices I made in my life, and trying to do it whilst also trying to help my children deal with the rejection and abandonment they feel from their father. It isn't easy, but I am trying. Please, just leave it alone, Rachel. I seriously am just too exhausted on every possible level one can be.
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Post by ctd on Dec 13, 2008 15:47:53 GMT 12
YDEKM here - can't be bothered logging out.
Perhaps in time I will care... but you lost most of my respect and understanding about a year ago. Good luck.
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Post by Mamalicious on Dec 13, 2008 20:19:04 GMT 12
~~~~~~~~~~~~ding, ding, ding, end of round 54~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Post by Roadhog on Dec 13, 2008 20:39:04 GMT 12
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Post by Mamalicious on Dec 13, 2008 20:59:44 GMT 12
I entered last page but got ignored, should have pulled the plug then
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Post by Mamalicious on Dec 13, 2008 21:12:37 GMT 12
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Post by Roadhog on Dec 13, 2008 21:24:14 GMT 12
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